# 289 Getting Teens Out of Their Rooms: Interview with Anita Cleare
Are you struggling to get your teen to emerge from their bedroom? Wondering how to 
connect with your teenager in today’s digital age?
In this episode of Power Your Parenting: Moms with Teens, host Colleen O’Grady sits down with parenting expert Anita Cleare to discuss practical strategies for understanding and connecting with teens, especially when it feels like they’re constantly withdrawing into their own worlds. Anita, author of the new book How to Get Your Teenager Out of Their Bedroom, shares her personal experiences of parenting teens and the challenges she faced, despite her professional expertise. Together, they explore the importance of respecting teens’ autonomy, collaborating with them to solve problems, and using small, meaningful moments to build connection. Anita emphasizes the role of a teen’s brain development in their behavior and how parents can shift from nagging to nurturing by managing their emotions and expectations. They also dive into the concept of avoiding catastrophic thinking, which can escalate conflict, and instead focus on guiding teens through their emotional and social struggles.
Anita Cleare (MA AdvDip) is a parenting expert, writer and coach and co-founder of the Positive Parenting Project a social enterprise which aims to bring the benefits of proven evidence-based parenting strategies to as many parents (and children) as possible.
Her new book How to Get Your Teenager Out of Their Bedroom tools and strategies for understanding connecting with and being there for your teenager which came out on September 10 th 2024. Anita’s first book, The Work/Parent Switch (known as The Working Parent’s Survival Guide in USA) is a positive parenting guide for working parents.
Key takeaways from this episode include the importance of collaboration, where working with your teen to find compromises fosters cooperation rather than conflict. Little moments matter, as small interactions, like casual chats in the kitchen, can build stronger relationships over time and help teens feel connected. It’s also crucial to understand their world, acknowledging that teens’ digital lives and friendships are integral to their identity, while helping them find balance with real-world activities. Lastly, regulating emotions is essential—parents should manage their own stress first, creating a calm atmosphere that can help teens better handle their own emotions and reactions.
Follow Anita on Instagram at https://www.instagram.com/anitacleare_parenting/
Learn More about Anita at https://anitacleare.co.uk/