4 Ways You Can Surprise Your Daughter

4 Ways You Can Surprise Your Daughter

Running on BeachI have a few questions for you.

1. When you go grocery shopping do you tend to go to the same grocery store and buy the same grocery items?

2. Do you drive the same route to work every morning?

3. Do you eat the same thing for breakfast or lunch each day?

4. In the evenings do you watch the same shows or do the same thing night after night?

5. How about your clothes. Do you wear the same type of clothes every day?

6. Let’s say it’s the weekend and you go out. Do you tend to go to the same restaurant and maybe a movie?

If you answered YES to 3 or more questions, you are like most moms. We tend to get in a routine week after week. I am not saying this is a bad thing, but it can get a little boring especially from our daughter’s perspective.

I am definitely guilty of this. I love my routines. One of my favorite things to do is going to brunch on Saturday morning with my friends. I love to go to the same restaurant and order the same thing. This is baffling to my daughter. She can’t comprehend why I would want to go to the same restaurant week after week. She would be completely bored doing the same old thing. She likes new and different places.

My daughter pushes me to try new things.

I think this is why God created teenage girls. They keep us from being boring and shake us out of our daily doldrums.

A teenage girl’s “boring” meter is highly sensitive. The worst thing in the world for a teenager is to be bored. I am sure you have heard your daughter say a few times, “I’m so bored.”

And when your daughter looks at your life, pretty good chance she thinks it’s boring. What she calls boring, you call routine.

Since she knows your routine, she thinks she has you figured out. This is because she sees you doing the same old things every day.

If you are honest, you may be tired of your routine and find it boring too.

Why not let your daughter be your teacher here. I am not saying you should dye your hair purple, but you could broaden your horizons a little bit.

You can have some fun with this. She thinks she knows your next move, so why don’t you surprise her.

4 Ways You Can Surprise Your Daughter

Surprise your daughter by…

1) …changing up your routine. (Do one thing different.)

  • Go to a different grocery store.
  • Go home a different way.
  • Change up your morning or evening routine.
  • Buy a new outfit or find some clothes you haven’t worn in a while.

2) …putting yourself out there. (Only you know what that means. It’s pushing YOU beyond your comfort zone.)

  • Join an exercise class or hire a personal trainer.
  • Go to a workshop or live event.
  • Attend networking events.
  • Take a dance class, or piano lesson.
  • Hire a stylist or change up the hair.

3) …inviting your daughter to do something different.

  • Take a mini road trip to the lake or beach.
  • Go to a fun restaurant on the other side of town.
  • Try a bikram yoga class, or zumba class.

4) …being different. (If she expects you to be stressed when you walk in the door from work, set an intention to be present and relaxed.)

  • Hang out and relax with her.
  • Show her your fun side.
  • Encourage her when she expects you to lay into her.

Before summer is over why don’t you surprise your daughter?

  • Hi Colleen,
    This article came at a good time for me. But then I think almost all of your articles have something I can relate to on any given day.
    I recently started taking an exercise class, and was shocked when my daughter asked to join me. She came several times, and besides enjoying having her voluntarily be with me (!), it was good for her to see me in a different setting doing something she had never seen me do.

    August 8, 2012 at 10:47 pm

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